Stop Feeling Guilty for Doing Less: The "Minimum Viable" Strategy

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Have you ever felt guilty for wanting to take care of yourself, to focus on you, to uphold your boundaries, to do the things that you know you need to do for you?

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Well, you're not alone.

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There is this pervasive guilt that we have every time we try to focus on us.

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And it's a lie within the entrepreneur and leadership spaces that is killing us.

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And it's the belief that intensity equals consistency.

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Like, if we don't show up and give 100% of the time, all the time, then we shouldn't show up at all.

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It's this massive black and white, all or nothing thinking that if we can't hit the home run, we shouldn't show up to the play.

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My friends, that is perfectionism.

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And that's one of the leading causes of why we're burning out at exponential rates.

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So today, I'm going to dive deep into this and, you know, navigate the five reasons why you're feeling guilty and give you a tip on how to fight through that.

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But first, cue it, band.

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Hey, friends.

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Welcome back to the Unshakable Life podcast.

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And today we are tackling a silent killer in the life of a leader.

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And it's not about being incompetent.

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It's not about failure.

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It's not about making mistakes.

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It's about the guilt of doing less.

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It's about the guilt of taking time for self and doing the things you and I need to do in order to be healthy.

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Because there's a gnawing feeling in our gut when we take a day off or if you work from home, when we sit in front of there in front of, like a game or watch Netflix, there's this giant shame that goes around that we don't send the email on time.

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We don't choose to do the thing over taking time for sleep or doing what we need to do to fill us up.

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And there's even this toxic thing within the entrepreneur space.

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If you listen to some of the.

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Some of the alpha gurus, they're going to be like, have no friends, cancel Netflix.

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Only do your work, make the money.

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And I think there's such an unhealthy thing about that, because what I know is that we live in a culture that equates volume with value, that creates product with identity, and.

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And those things couldn't be Far as, far from the truth.

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Because if I do more, it says I am more.

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If I do less, I must be failing or I must be less, or if my product isn't as quality, we go, I must not be as good as I think I am.

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People won't like me.

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And then we get into all these fear of rejections and things like that.

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But the reality of this comes back to the fact is, is if.

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Is that we're dealing with this inside the entrepreneur and leadership spaces.

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And I want to give you the five guilt triggers that you and I have and to really kind of diagnose, like, hey, what are these things and why are we feeling this?

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And you may find that you have one of these five, or you may find that you have all five of these, but we have to deal with them because the object is not to be a great leader.

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The object is to be a healthy leader, because healthy leaders are great leaders.

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And what we see, and regardless of where you're leading or how you're leading, what we see in the leadership space is that there is an epidemic of unhealthy leadership where leaders who are hurt are hurting others or causing trauma or rewounding and all these things.

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We need to stop trying to be the best version of ourselves because we don't know what that looks like.

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We need to start being the healthiest version of ourselves, because I promise you, the healthiest version is the best version.

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And if you are the best version, you're going to be the healthiest version.

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So let's be healthy and let's start with these five guilt triggers.

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And the first one is your busyness as an identity.

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And first, many of us feel this, and I think I felt this really deeply somehow, that the more on my calendar, the more value I think I had the I'm busy mantra or the.

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The I'm busy statement of everything I'm doing, I'm doing, I'm doing, even if it's not productive.

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Doing busyness.

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Regardless of productivity, efficiency.

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Busyness equated to something that meant I matter because people wanted me on their schedules.

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People were looking at my content, so I mattered.

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But here's the ruse.

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If I stop producing, I stop feeling valuable.

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If you take away the work, you.

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You're left with the question, who am I?

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And for a lot of leaders, that silence is terrifying.

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Matter of fact, there's many of us who can't even sit in silence because the silence is so deafening, because we're.

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The busyness feels unsafe to us.

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And that is a Trauma response, that is an identity issue.

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We want to feel safe, so we try to be busy.

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And the busyness becomes two things.

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It becomes a way to run away from your problems and.

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And it becomes a way to encapsulate yourself in a falsehood that says, I have value because I'm busy.

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The second thing comes into misinterpreting servanthood.

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Now, as a Bible believing Christian, we're called to service, right?

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And you may believe in Jesus.

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And if you're not somebody who believes in Jesus and you're listening to this podcast, we welcome you as well.

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And I promise you're going to get something out of this.

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But when we sit there and we read the Bible, we think dying to self, this is something that we have to.

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Dying to self, pick up your cross, follow after me.

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That is the essence of true discipleship.

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But dying to self does not mean destroying, destroying oneself.

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And we think that if we have needs, we're being selfish because everybody else's need comes before my knee, right?

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That's what we've been conditioned.

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But I want you to hear me.

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Self neglect is not holy work.

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It's not, Jesus served the world.

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But we also read where Jesus took time to sleep and pray.

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And if you are the savior of the world, being Jesus and he had boundaries, then so do you and so do I.

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And we've got to stop misinterpreting servanthood as we have to completely deny ourselves to the point of destroying ourselves.

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Because what that really equates to my friends is people pleasing.

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And it's people pleasing in a nutshell, to, to do for others.

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So much so that we think that by serving them we're validating our existence and they're getting something out of it while we're living this holy pious life of completely emptying ourselves of all things and serving to the point of where it hurts, because that's what we think.

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You couldn't be so far from the truth.

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That is not how this works.

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That is an absolute deception and an absolute lie.

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You're not to be a people pleaser.

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You're supposed to please God through faith.

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And serving means having strong boundaries, healthy living and giving.

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In the midst of that, the third one comes into a fear of judgment.

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This is a big one for a lot of us because I will also lump in the fear of judgment with the fear of rejection.

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Because oftentimes those of us who have rejection sensitivity on any level also fear judgment because they're, they're linked.

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Because we want to say in our heads, like, there's a voice, right?

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There's so many voices out there and every.

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The world is so loud.

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And everybody's looking to be perfect, everybody's looking to be viral and all this stuff.

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And then we start asking a lot of times, especially when you live in this and you're getting into the places of perfectionism, what will they think of me?

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How will I be received?

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Like, before you post, before you do the podcast, before you do the YouTube, before you do any of this, we get to this place where it says, how will I be received?

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Will they forget me if I don't post?

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Will they do all these things we struggle with this, is that we want to think that if I don't do, then I'm going to be rejected, I'm going to be judged, and they will think I'm lazy.

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They'll think I have no value.

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They think that I'm not worth something.

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And we're leading for, for the.

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For the approval of an audience rather than the audience of one.

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And the audience of one is Jesus.

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And I think that because we live in this place and we're struggling so much on a depth of what will they think of me?

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Our content tends not to be authentic.

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It tends to be in a place of overly polished.

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Because if it's perfect, if it's overly polished, then nobody is going to be able to criticize me because that's where a fear of judgment and rejection is.

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We don't want to be criticized.

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And I'm telling you, this is an unhealthy place.

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And because it's unhealthy, it pushes us to burnout.

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It pushes us to constantly serve, constantly do these things, constantly overwork, with no boundaries, no self care.

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And then at the end of the day, we're living in this anxious mess of what everybody else thinks.

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And now the fourth one comes in with the comparison trap.

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And this one again, as we go through the five.

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If you open your Instagram, if you even still use Instagram now, maybe you're on TikTok or some other place, whatever you open, right?

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And you're sitting there and you're like, man, everyone else I'm following is crushing it.

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They're launching, they're scaling, they're making money, they're grinding, they've got influence, they've got followers.

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And when you rest, it feels like you're losing ground.

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But I want you to remember something, friends, is that you're not comparing yourself to them because you're only comparing yourself to you, because here is a truth that they don't tell you about social media.

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I've been doing social media for a while.

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Here's the truth.

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What happens is, is you start to compare your behind the scenes with their highlight reel.

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They're giving you their best stuff.

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There's very few people, if anyone, who is truly authentic and vulnerable in front of the camera.

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They want the views, they want the clout, they want the influence, they want the money.

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And.

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And you're sitting here with your life falling apart, your messy room, your chronic illness and everything else, and you're like, man, I would love that life.

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Right?

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This is how the trap begins.

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Because you don't see their burnout, you don't see their loneliness, you don't see their depression.

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You just see their polished output.

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And this is a trap that constantly draws us and sucks us in.

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Because one of the things that I think we have to really remember is that a lot of us follow people who are at level 10, and we may be at a level 7, and if we're at a level 7 trying to be a level 10, we haven't grown to that level yet, and we're overly doing it, and we're still.

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It's stealing our joy, it's stealing our life, it's stealing everything that makes us us so that we can play the game and be who they want us to be.

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You see how this is all starting to kind of go together.

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And I'm sure at this point that maybe you've got one or two, if not all four.

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And number five, we come into one that I've coached a bunch on and I'm even writing a book on.

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It's unhealed beliefs about worth.

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You know, I. E. The.

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You're the.

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You're the wage earner or you're the content creator of these things.

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And this one hits hard because it's the deepest one.

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Because many of us secretly believe we're on God's payroll, that somehow we work for God.

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We think that we have to earn, we have to work, and we have to do it every single day.

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That if somehow we have a low output day.

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And as somebody who has a chronic illness, and maybe you have one, there are days where the flare is so high you don't have a high output, but we want to ignore that, beat our bodies up and then keep pushing forward.

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And when we feel like we can't keep pushing forward, we get into the shame hole, the shame and guilt, because we have a belief that says, I'm trying to earn my way and my right and my Respect and everything.

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And if I can't earn it, then I'm going to displease God.

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I'm going to displease people.

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And that's not what, what needs to happen.

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I need to work until I fall, right?

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No, that's not the gospel.

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The gospel brings us life.

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The gospel brings us a new heart.

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You are a son and daughter.

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You're not an employee.

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You're not somebody who shows up, punches a clock and leaves after, after the day is done.

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You are a son and daughter 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

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And I got you.

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I need you to hear this fact because you are not your earnings, you are not your product, you are not your business.

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You are not any of those things.

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And we have unhealed belief systems and lies that we've believed about tying our worth to our output.

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And that's pervasive.

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It sucks.

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But I, I promise you that many of us are dealing with it, but it needs to be healed.

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So let's kind of dive in a little deeper and, and give you a little strategy and stuff.

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But before we do that, I want to talk about the one, the woman with the widow's might.

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We want to counteract the lies.

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Those five things were lies.

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And now we want to get, start getting into some truth.

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And I think is there's a place in us that we think that God wants us at a plus intensity 24.

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7.

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But the problem is, is most of us are doing a plus intensity 24.

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7 and we're burning out, we're depressed, we're anxious, we're giving up.

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We, we don't understand why God isn't blessing us.

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We don't understand why it's not doing the thing we thought it should have done three years ago.

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But the Bible doesn't teach that.

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The Bible teaches us to war, to work from a place of rest.

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The Bible calls us to love God with all of our heart.

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But he also calls us to build a Sabbath with rest and limits.

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The two are not exclusive, they are inclusive.

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They need to be together.

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You can't build a life that loves God completely if you're not following what he tells us.

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Not only do we have to serve and disciple others and, and get out there and do the thing, build the business or whatever God's called you to, you also have to build in Sabbath rest with limits.

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And I will even so much go forth and say boundaries because people want to walk all over those.

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That's another conversation for another day.

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This is where you know, many of us will slip into the working for God mantra.

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Like, we're going to be like, we're working for God, but we're not working with God.

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We serve like we're hired hands instead of sons and daughters who.

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Who were invited to sit at the table.

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And.

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And this is where all the trouble starts.

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I mean, and I mentioned the widow's bite.

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So let's look at that.

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And for you guys who want to go check it out, It's.

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It's Luke 21.

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Go read it.

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But the story really kind of goes, is that there's people there and it's a giving.

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And I know there's a lot of pastors and all go out there and says, look, they give out of a place of sacrifice and they use this as a tithing.

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And I don't.

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And I think there is some validity to that, but I don't think that this is what this is all about.

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I don't think this is a sermon on tithing with this widow's might.

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Because here we got the two.

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The rich people, they're giving large amounts and big, you know, bags of gold or whatever money they had at the time.

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And it looked impressive.

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But here's the poor widow that.

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That walked up and dropped two small coins.

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And from a human angle, her gift.

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Her gift looked tiny.

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It was forgettable.

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It was like nothing.

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It was like, oh, whatever, at those guys.

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Because we have this propensity to look at those guys with a big amount of money.

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But here's the thing.

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Jesus stopped and said, he, she put more in than anybody else.

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And we ask ourselves why?

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Because they gave from abundance and she gave from sacrifice, and she gave from what she didn't have.

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They gave from what they did have.

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It didn't hurt them.

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It hurt her.

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So there's this place of sacrifice.

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And I'm going to tell you this.

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The kingdom of God is not measured in visible volume.

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It's measured in faith and faithfulness.

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She showed both faith and faithfulness.

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They showed volume.

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And now we don't know their heart in the end, but that's okay.

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But we could just look at the story and what Jesus said and how he brought attention in the world's eyes.

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Her offering is insignificant.

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And how many of us would say the same thing if we gave so little, we would question or criticize our little offering versus somebody else who's giving to, like, building wells in Africa.

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And we can't even give to the poor homeless guy on the side of the road.

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We're going to be like, wow, this is insignificant and we shame and guilt ourselves.

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But here's the deal.

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In God's eyes, her sacrifice was an A plus because it was offered in trust.

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It wasn't offered in abundance.

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It wasn't offered in something that those rich people would never even miss.

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It was offered in.

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I don't have, but I trust God to provide.

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So I'm going to give.

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Right.

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Because God does not want or need production value.

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He wants you, your presence, your honest yes.

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Even if your yes today feels small and fragile, he still wants it.

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He can do more with a weak but faithful yes than he can with a year of burnt out over performers.

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So how do we fix this?

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How do we kind of get back into this reframing if we want to create a framework where we can start navigating our guilt?

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Because this is going to be, first and foremost, we need to have a minimum viable strategy for our A plus days and our C minus days because they're going to happen to both.

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Now if your business, you know, minimal viable product, well, this is a minimum viable strategy so that we can live in these things.

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Right now you're A plus days.

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Look, A plus is A plus.

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These are your best days.

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Now you're going to have the energy, you're going to have the time, you're going to have everything you need to do.

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You're going to crush it, you're going to crush your list, you're going to get things done, you're going to record the video, you're going to do the podcast, you're going to do all the things, you're going to study the word, you can do all these things.

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We love these days.

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These are our favorite days.

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But we can't live here because, you know, especially if you have any level of nervous system challenges, trauma, chronic illness, mental illness, if you have any of these things, there are not going to be a lot of A plus days.

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And this is where we need to move into a place of acceptance and reframe when the A plus day comes.

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Thank you, Jesus.

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Let's get all the things we can get done.

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But on the C plus, C minus days, this is where grace comes in.

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This is where we have to accept that I may have to understand I am not going to be who I used to be because of the illness I'm dealing with now.

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This is when, like for me, when a flare happens or when for you, maybe when a flare or grief hits or fatigue sets in.

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These are these days where we just want to quit because we don't have the energy, we don't have the desire, we don't have anything.

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The tank is empty, the body is screaming and you're like, that's it.

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And these are days where you can't do A plus work on a C minus day.

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You just can't.

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I've tried.

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I've tried and I tried and I fail miserably.

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We need to reframe it and define it as minimum viable, which means on my C minus days, what can I consider A plus work on a C minus day.

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Now, I may not be able to get all the things done, but I can get something done, right?

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Even if that something is rest.

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Because rest is healthy and rest is active.

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So I've got to look at that as a part of the C minus plan.

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So an A plus strategy is an hour of deep work, praying and journaling, right?

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A minimum viable or a C minus day.

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Your A plus could be, Jesus, I love you, help me today.

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It still counts.

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It's just not as deep.

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You may not have an hour of energy, but you sit there and cry out and be like, jesus, help.

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You know, on your A Plus days, you can get a fully edited 4K YouTube video podcast and everything going.

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But on your minimum viable days, maybe all you do is you post a Facebook post with a text and that's it.

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Or you do an audio note to somebody that counts.

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All of those count.

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Now, I don't want you to think that this is a C minus mindset, but what it is is a mindset of acceptance.

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This is a mindset that says on my C minus days where my body just doesn't want to do what an A plus day body wants to do, I'm dealing with the fatigue and all that.

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You can sit there and say, I'm still a winner if I accomplish this, does it.

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Is it a lot less?

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Yes.

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And what it does is it allows you to feel like you're accomplishing something even when your body doesn't want you to.

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And I think that if we have this balanced strategy of on your A plus days, go crush it.

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And on your C minus days, what can be considered an A plus thing, like, these are going to be things that create health, that prevent burnout, that allows you to move out of that shame and guilt hole of I've got to do, do, do, and I feel so guilty, guilty, guilty, and into the I'm okay.

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I may not feel okay, but this is okay.

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And this is what I can do in the midst of this and accepting that for what it is.

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I Think that's going to be a huge part of all of this, is the learning to accept all of it.

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So let's just kind of bring this home.

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Let's just say that we put the all or nothing lie on the shelf and say, you know what that thing is now dead that goes with, you know, the dead gym, the one that, that Jesus didn't resurrect, that stays with the old gym, the pre Jesus gym, the all or nothing mentality because it's killing your consistency, it's stealing your joy and, and it's creating a lot of guilt.

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So here's my challenge to you.

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Identify the area where you feel the most guilt right now.

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Not all the areas, but whatever area that is.

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And then ask yourself a simple question.

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Is this because of comparison?

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Identity, fear.

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And then you can check the top five and see where that comes in.

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And then number three, define what the minimum viable looks like for that day.

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And then you're going to have to walk in the acceptance and the compassion of that.

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You don't have to be perfect guys, but you do have to be healthy.

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And I think we live in a world that has been unhealthy for so long that you would be a beacon of light walking in health towards a perfect Jesus, being an imperfect person.

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And that is just living faithfully, biblically, as you build your thing, you lead your people and you do all the things that you were supposed to do and you're going to do and God is gifting and strengthening you to do.

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But I want to give you the permission to breathe.

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I want to give you the permission to put it on the shelf, to have that self compassion, start challenging those things, those lies, your little or what you consider little is enough.

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Your little is enough when you place it in God's hands.

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So with that being said, I'll see you next week.

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Thank you for spending this time with me on the Unshakable Life podcast.

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My prayer is that today's conversation helps you to build resilience, reclaim peace, and step with courage into your God given calling.

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And until next time, remember your foundation is Christ.

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Your calling is Unshakable and your life can make eternal impact.

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This is the unshakable life.

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Mindset.

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Resilience.

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Action.

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No.

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Strive.

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Break free from the burnout.

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Find your true north with your God.

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Jim Burgoon stepping forward.

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This is the unshakable life.